Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Why does anyone need this website?

You can save relationships, time and money by following the Preferred Path to resolve everyday conflicts, instead of relying on avoidance,  premature higher authority (lawsuits) or force.

In what circumstances might someone use this site?

This site applies to three challenges that people face at work, at home, and in many other situations. The site will help you:

  • Communicate: Here you aim to listen well and speak clearly to others, in order to achieve deeper understanding; there may not necessarily be a problem to be solved, but rather an interest in strengthening relationships.
  • Build Consensus: In this case you have a topic on the table, though parties may hold very different views, and may site different facts to support their respective positions; unless they achieve some agreement on a topic that has demanded their attention, they may well suffer losses in time, relationships and other aspects of life together.
  • Resolve Conflict: In this case some past or current event is perceived by one or more others to have caused harm; one or more individuals want justice, peace, and/or healing.

Does using this site require the participation of all parties?

No. The site is based on the premise that even one party following the Preferred Path can make a significant difference in the outcomes of communication, consensus building, and conflict resolution events.

You can use this site unilaterally as a guide for your own behavior; or invite others, even opponents, to use it with you.

What products and services does Blue Lion Conflict Solutions offer?

This site provides:

  • Immediate guidance in applying the Preferred Path steps (web pages).
  • 24/7 access to 24 tools and in depth guidance for each step.
  • Convening Services to assist in bringing one or more other parties “to the table” for a collaborative solution.
  • Education and Training courses.
  • Consultation to assist in integrating the Preferred Path into organizational procedures.

What does it mean to “convene your case for mediation”?

It is not uncommon for the resolution process to derail over arguments about whether or not to use a mediator. Convening is intended to address this problem. Any party can call to request that a convener contact all parties to explain options for facilitation/mediation, help find a mutually agreeable person, and assist with scheduling and follow up. The first party pays only their share of an administrative fee. For more information, click Convening Your Case for Mediation.

How does a mediator make a difference?

Mediation is an assisted negotiation. If, for any reason, the parties have failed to resolve an issue, or if one or more is fearful about walking into difficult territory, the mediator can serve as a buffer, guide, and sometimes coach. Mediators typically use both private and joint meetings to help parties unbundle issues, listen to one another, and create integrative solutions.

Can the Preferred Path prevent lawsuits?

Yes. Steps 1-4 are intended to help resolve differences without litigation through the courts.

Is there an arbitration requirement in the Preferred Path?

No. Parties may agree to use arbitration as a method in Step 5 Higher Authority.

Does using this program take away rights to go to court?

No. Any party not satisfied with the outcome of a negotiation or mediation (Steps 3 and 4, respectively) retains the right to pursue the matter through the courts in Step 5.

What is the role of attorneys in the Preferred Path?

Parties need to know about their legal rights when involved in a conflict involving another person or group. However, sometimes even hearing that someone has “consulted an attorney” can conjure up the threat of litigation, and lead to parties end direct communication at the time when it might be most beneficial.

The Two-Track model of attorney representation is designed to solve this problem. Parties can engage “Track 1 attorneys” to represent them for negotiation and mediation (Steps 1-4 of the Preferred Path, collaborative processes), and use their respective “Track 2 attorneys” if the case proceeds to litigation (Step 5 on the Preferred Path). For more information, visit